Let’s dive into the divine masculine. Our favorite subject I know. I’m going to mainly be talking about men in this one. Masculine is not gender specific. Most of the divine masculine runners are males and what I talk about below most likely affects them, so that is the subject of this article, however runners that are women may be feeling one or two of these aspects as well.
Number one problem…society tries to feminize men. Society uses women to make them feel secure if their men don’t do specific things. Men are supposed to be protectors. I’m not sure why we would ever turn them into people that need to buy flowers and diamonds and setup elaborate proposals. I can say this all benefits the elite who profit off all this stuff. All I see is it makes men miserable and if they don’t want to do all these things, the women act unhappy and boom breakup or divorce sets in. How much better would things be if all this nonsense was dropped and men could just show love in the small ways they are already good at?
Next, another matrix/elite thing that has been pushed on to men. There are men coaches out there who can elaborate on this so much better than I can, but in a nutshell men are made to believe that they should be jacking off every single day and if a woman isn’t available – oh look, there’s the internet AND they can have a different girl every night. The Alchemist on Youtube, Sarah Elkhaldy coined it best when she said ‘His sex drive is targeted to keep him out of his higher centers, with nowhere to go the energy is blocked in the root center, creating a limited identity of his full potential’ In other words a mans sexual energy is so powerful – powerful enough to create another life and when he’s turning on only fans every night, he’s wasting his potential, his inner power. The matrix wants it that way. They want his power for themselves. This is a multi billion dollar industry profits of keeping our men weak and destroying their relationships.
We already mentioned men being too much in their feminine. The next relationship destroyer would be them not being touch with the feminine side at all. They aren’t allowed to go there, keeping them out of balance in their masculine/feminine energies. They are shamed any time emotions come up. This starts probably around the age of two or three as they start to hear ‘Grow some balls’ or ‘Be a man’. Every single human can only have a shot at mental and emotional health when their emotions can be expressed properly, but men are taught to shut these down. The last time I saw my own twinflame in person, he actually said to me ‘I can’t be alone with my thoughts, I do everything I can to ignore them’. What he means by ‘everything’ are the addictions he turns to – to cover up what he’s feeling and then they are suppressed and all of it ends up coming out in unhealthy ways. Men can’t talk to anyone about this because women have been fed the same lies about feminity in men – that it shouldn’t exist and are just as uncomfortable with men expressing their emotions – even though you will often hear women say they wish their husbands would communicate with them better. They can’t talk to other men because there are very few who are comfortable with their emotions and so if they try, they get shut down by both genders. If they seek out mens retreats, meditation, mens groups or any kind of therapy, it is shunned by other men and they are ridiculed for it. It’s was hard enough for me to seek these things out without being treated as an outcast – I can’t even imagine how it is for men.
Let us now return to the men too much in their feminine, the men who call themselves the nice guys and say ‘Nice guys always finish last’ which is complete victim mode by the way. I could write a whole article alone on nice guys, but to break it down quickly, they not only align with the feminine, they have been taught to shame the masculine – in fact they particularly hate men who are strongly in their masculine. These guys are the ones who will be your friend and swear they are just your friend, while secretly they are hoping if they spend just enough time with you, they will succeed in getting into your bed. This is the result of what has been done to men by society or by caregivers who weren’t prepared to raise a confident masculine man.
There are more mens coaches available today than ever before – ones that know what they are doing, not just talk therapy. There are mens retreats. There are mens books like Man Uncivilized by Traver Boehm or The Way of the Superior Man by David Dieda. In all the intensives I’ve gone to, I’ve seen plenty of men ready to open their hearts, heal and learn. And then there are the twinflames. Us divine feminines are so vital to this because we ourselves are intent on learning what they are up against so we can have compassion as they try to slay these demons best they can. Twinflames are the ONLY women I know who are willing to work on themselves while holding space for a man that’s not even guaranteed to come back. We usually don’t give ourselves enough credit for how strong we are, but this is the real deal.
Another issue is that we as women don’t take the time to praise them whenever they do something right. I blame society for this with Instagram posts of couples all trying to one up each other. If we were secure about our man, and ourselves, we wouldn’t need to always be proving something to someone else. We wouldn’t always be disappointed in things he hasn’t done. We would just love him.
And then there is work, but the matrix kind of does this to everyone. The hustle culture we live in says he always has to be achieving more, so men are more focused on their careers and working than they are their real purpose and their relationships. This again, is an unnecessary expectation placed on everyone, but especially men.
So, twinflames, see how this isn’t just about you. In fact none of what I just mentioned is about you. Sure there are a few things I mentioned that might give you insight to keep in mind when you go into union, but for the most part, it is them against society and the matrix and all you can do is just be patient and understanding and have faith that the universe is playing it’s part to bring them around….giving them the strength to overcome this.
You also have every right to move on. Let them be. Let them figure it out. The divine feminine is not a fixer and never will be.